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Who has never met an envious person in their life? Or who has not felt envy at some time in his life? Surely all or almost all of us have known someone who has envied us or we have seen how they have envied others and even sometimes it has happened to us that we have felt envy towards another person. Envy is a feeling that arises from the comparison with another person and normally this comparison is made with other people who have more abilities than us, more material things, etc.
Envious people feel less fortunate and less valuable than others all the time and when the envy they feel becomes so great they may even try to destroy or attack the person they envy. That is why it is important to learn to identify this type of people who are not happy or comfortable with themselves so that they do not affect us or try to intrude on our lives, as long as they continue with that attitude and experiencing that negative feeling such as envy, they can even bring us conflicts. It is for this reason that in this Psychology-Online article we are going to let you know what are the main characteristics of envious people.
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The most common traits of envious people
Next we are going to introduce you to some of the most common characteristics of envious people. We must bear in mind that each person is different so we cannot judge or label them in a certain way, they are simply aspects that can help us that something in the person's life is not going very well and that until they work with that for them She herself will not be able to stop envying and therefore experiencing that constant discomfort she feels.
- Poor self esteem Envious people lack self-esteem and don't realize how much they are worth just because they are people. The envious have the belief that people are worth what they have (material things, personal abilities, physical appearance, etc.) and not for what they really are. So for this type of person if another does not have enough of that to which she places great importance, she will have the impression that it is worth nothing. Likewise, if she feels that she lacks one or many things, she will feel that her life is worthless.
- They are continuously compared. Envious people do not stop comparing themselves with others who have more things than they have or think they have, which even makes them feel miserable and therefore they feel very bad about themselves.
- They wish evil on others. The envious cannot stand that other people have what they wish they had, even if they do not want the same things, if they see that another person is doing well in any area of their life, it affects them as much as if that is why they really lost something.
- They make you look bad in public. They take advantage of any moment that you get distracted to say something to you in front of other people who they know will make you embarrass yourself and even make you look ridiculous.
- They make fun of other people. Envious people often tend to make fun of others and constantly judge them. For example, if they see that someone else is doing well financially, they can say things like: "What a fool he may be doing very well at his job but his love life is a disaster,", even scares ”,“ seems retarded ”, etc.
- They do false flattery. Have you ever met someone who compliments other people constantly even with no reason to? These people when they compliment someone or when they congratulate another for something they did well, it shows that they are not doing it naturally and on the contrary they act in a false way and it shows.
In this other article we will discover the different types of envy that exist.
How to treat envious people
When within our social circle we have an envious person with whom we constantly live, we can do the following so as not to conflict with them.
- Empathize. Once we are aware that these types of people do not feel good about themselves and that the problem is only with them and not with others, it is easier to try to understand them. For this we can ask ourselves questions such as: what has led that person to have this negative feeling? What does he have in his life in his favor that he is not perceiving because he is looking at what others have?
- Talk to that person. Depending on the type of relationship we have with that person, it is advisable to speak from empathy and understanding with that person and make him see what he has stopped seeing in his life and the way in which he is affecting himself to save this type of feeling.
Here we discover what to do when someone envies you so that you know how to react and how to manage this situation.
Why is there envy?
Envy comes from comparison, people who spend all their time comparing themselves with others and stop seeing the good in themselves begin to harbor this type of feeling that if not managed in a good way can even be destructive. Those who envy feel that they lack one or more things that other people seem to have, they look only at the superficial and do not realize that all people have defects and virtues, nobody is perfect.
As they compare themselves with others, the more they distance themselves from themselves and the more envy increases since it will be increasingly difficult for them to achieve and especially to identify their true personal goals that surely have nothing to do with those of the people they envy, without However, since they do not know themselves well, they can live with the belief that they need what the other has. Finally, they make constant comparison a vicious circle where they become increasingly involved and live their lives experiencing great frustration and anxiety for not feeling valuable enough.
The downside of all this is that by not being aware of what is happening to them, they cannot put a stop to this situation and find a solution to increase their emotional well-being.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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