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As much as we want to avoid them, conflicts with others are inevitable. Whether it is our partner, members of our family, friends, co-workers or even strangers, the difference in points of view, desires, aspirations and objectives makes, at a given moment, we find ourselves immersed in a conflict. This idea usually has a negative connotation, but depending on how we solve it, this situation can help us grow as people and be something positive or it can fill us with resentment and cloud, in the future, the relationship with that person. Faced with a conflict, we can take three different attitudes.
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- Lose - lose
- Win win
Win - lose
In this case, the conflict is seen as a war, and to reach a solution it is assumed that one of the parties will be the winner and the other a loser, with only the absolute surrender of the other being possible.
In these cases, an attempt is made above all to impose one's own points of view and we feel attacked and violated, which usually leads us to a dialectic in which both parties can be damaged, but especially the losing party, who will only wait for the moment to be winner in the next conflict.
Lose - lose
We start from the assumption that both parties must give up something or give up something (lose) to solve the conflict. It is a better solution than the previous one, but it often leads to both parties feeling frustrated by the loss suffered.
Win win
It is the most positive attitude, because it starts from the premise that both parties immersed in the conflict can achieve their objectives, that is, it allows both to win. For this, it is necessary to face the conflict with the will and creativity necessary to achieve a satisfactory solution for both parties. Making a good diagnosis of the problem and seeking solutions that take the other into consideration is essential in this strategy.
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