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A sullen person is not very sociable and shuns treatment and conversations with people. The sullen people receive the world in a distorted way, since they interpret social relationships as a constant threat and think that all people want to harm them, and that is why it costs them so much to relate to others. Do you have friends what happens to them? You can help him be better. Keep reading!
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- Tell him what to improve
- Ask for changes
- What if it doesn't change?
Express what you feel
If your sullen friend has done something to you that has upset you, you should be honest and explain that you feel upset, angry or sad and why. Be clear and concise in your words. You should also accept your responsibility if at any time you have been overly sensitive to their comments and tell them so.
Tell him what to improve
Explain what has bothered you and what you hope will change to improve your relationship, explain the positive consequences and make it clear that that way you will feel more comfortable and he or she will too.
Also, so that he is aware of things, describe the situations in which he behaves in an unbearable way, for example: "When you speak to me, you do it in a very high and insulting tone."
Ask for changes
Clearly ask him to change his attitude: "I would like you to talk to me in a pleasant way and without yelling, so we can speak better."
What if it doesn't change?
If even after all your attempts and all your patience you see that he does not change his attitude and remains exactly the same in his behavior, then warn him of the negative consequences that will lead to him.
Make it clear that with that attitude and his refusal to change you will emotionally distance yourself because you do not have to put up with that behavior from anyone and that it is in his power to prevent it.
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