Table of contents:
- Is it necessary to talk to your partner every day?
- How often is it normal to see your partner?
- Is it normal that you want to see me only on weekends?
- Is it normal that you only want to see me on weekends or every 15 days?
- How much time is healthy to spend with your partner?
Many couples when starting a relationship ask themselves if they are spending enough time or if they see each other too often and that will make them lose the desire. In short, when starting and being with someone there can always be a fear behind asking if what we are doing helps us to grow and strengthen the relationship or on the contrary it is slowly putting out the fire. In this Psychology-Online article we want to cover one of the issues that sometimes generates more doubts among couples: how much time to spend with the couple, how long can you be apart and how often is it normal to see your partner.
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- How often is it normal to see your partner?
- How much time is healthy to spend with your partner?
Is it necessary to talk to your partner every day?
Communication is the fundamental basis of a couple, in addition, nowadays, with the appearance of instant messaging, it is much easier to maintain a more constant communication with the couple. This fact has been a source of conflict for many couples, since if you do not talk with your partner, communication being so easy, it is because you do not want to. For this, it is necessary to previously establish how you are going to handle this whole issue of instant messaging or calls from the beginning of the relationship, to avoid possible future misunderstandings.
The most logical thing, with the facilities provided today, is that there is a daily communication however brief, perhaps it does not take more than a "good morning" or "have a good day", to be available to the couple if something happens and a "how's the day" at the end of it. It does not have to be constant communication throughout the day, but it does have to be available to the couple and communicate when you have to be away.
How often is it normal to see your partner?
Each couple is different and each one must establish when they will see each other approximately. It is important that at the beginning of the relationship you talk openly about how often you like to see your partner to see how compatible you are on this issue. It is normal that at the beginning of the relationship, with the infatuation and because you are establishing the bond, you see each other more frequently than perhaps when you have been for a while. Even so, it may happen that due to the work rhythm and its routine we find that our partner may spend less time than we would like and this is when he comes into conflict with the partner.
Is it normal that you want to see me only on weekends?
Like everything in life, the reason for this situation must be assessed:
- Perhaps it is due to a lack of time due to his busy schedule during his day to day during the week and the feeling that if he cannot dedicate quality time to you, he prefers not to see you.
- It may also be because the person is quickly overwhelmed and prefers to continue with their routine before you showed up and does not yet seem ready to modify it.
What to do about it? Depending on the circumstances that are leading the person to make the decision to see you only on weekends, this request is normal. Even so, if you do not agree with this meeting proposal, you must:
- Talk to your partner about the conflict caused by staying alone on weekends and listen to what the other person tells you about it. Explain what concerns this generates in you assertively and pay attention to the response of the other person. In this article we explain how to resolve a conflict assertively.
- Evaluate the situation for which your partner proposes you to only meet on weekends, try while doing this exercise also to put yourself in their shoes and try to see how the other person is asking you for this. Once you have valued your point of view and have tried to understand his, assess whether the situation compensates you and makes you happy or this fact is too big a stone in the way.
Is it normal that you only want to see me on weekends or every 15 days?
Another thing to assess regarding the time your partner dedicates to you is if there have been changes in this, that is, before you see each other much more but now it seems that with the weekends it has enough and if it is every 15 days nothing happens either.
- Maybe your partner has the feeling that everything has become too routine and needs this time between you to miss you and not more.
- Work stress should also be assessed and if there have been changes in it that may have affected the relationship.
It is true that seeing your partner every 15 days if you live relatively close to each other is a phenomenon that occurs more and more due to the type of links that are established, but that if it has not occurred from the beginning it can be an indicator that something between you does not quite work and no external stimulus can be lurked (family problems, times of many changes, etc.).
What to do about it? In this situation it is important:
- Listen to what your body tells you about this topic, what sensations are awakened in you when you think that your partner dedicates time to you every 15 days and when you listen to their arguments about it.
- If this causes you discomfort, you must act and communicate to the other person what you feel about the time invested in you.
- Make agreements. In life, balances must be found and if the proposal does not help your balance, you must negotiate with your partner so that both of you can agree on the time you invest in each other.
- It is also important to detect why your partner only wants to dedicate the time they dedicate to you and if this is an indicator that the other person is like this or there has been a general change in the attitude of the relationship. If this is the case, confront the situation and remember that sometimes it is better to let go than to hold back something that does not make us happy. In this article you will find 30 signs that a relationship is not working.
How much time is healthy to spend with your partner?
The healthiest thing that can be in a couple is the agreements. So depending on each couple, these will be one or the other. The healthy time to dedicate to someone is up to you, since there are couples who live together, so they see each other every day of the week and not for that reason we see or think that they have an obsession with each other. The healthy time to dedicate to your partner is one in which your partner feels a priority in your life but at the same time you have time to perform your tasks / duties and to see your social environment, friends, family, go out for a drink with co-workers.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography- Morfa, JD (2003). Prevention of couple conflicts . Desclée de Brouwer